Your Body and Mind Relationship
Finding the space of acceptance and love
Nurture the longest relationship of your life, the relationship with yourself.
It’s your first time doing a boudoir session. Understandably, it can feel excruciatingly daunting. The feeling of self-consciousness as you peel off layer after layer of clothing, all while anxiety and nervousness flood your being.
As women, we want to feel and look beautiful. Beautiful; what does that even mean? Are we looking for approval from others or ourselves? Even as we get older our bodies change….and yet our minds say we haven’t.
Picture yourself undressed looking into the mirror. What do you see? Yourself? Definitely. But there’s more. We see our imperfections; the scars, the fat, the stretch marks, our veins. Society tells us that these are anything but.
Staring at your reflection, millions of thoughts avalanche through, convincing you to redress and leave. Feeling discouraged and embarrassed you walk out of the changing room in negligee.
Knowing you’ll regret.
In times of intimacy we cover up in shame whether with clothing or dimmed lights. We constantly judge ourselves and in one moment…..
The moment.
You see your first photograph.
In that moment the imperfections, the vicious comments we make to ourselves…
Disappear. For the first time in a long while.
We remember that we are women. We are strong and beautiful. Best of all, we are REAL. Seeing ourselves as others see us through the lens of a camera. Raw and unedited.
You see your curves, your lines, your strange tan and you see the beauty in them. Seeing now that with just one photo, a renewed feeling of self worth has been released.
An excitement to feel sexy. The childish giggle emerges from within as more of your personality radiates from each new photo. And with that a realization that we are our toughest critics. Real women don’t have perfect skin. Real women don’t have perfect bodies. Real women do have different bodies. Real women aren’t perfect, and perfect women aren’t real.
Society tells us to change our bodies, to become the perfect woman. Why not change their minds? Shape your mind to love yourself. To love your body. Sometimes all it takes is that
One Moment.
Your body and mind should be in harmony and support one another. Be supportive in your everyday by making healthy choices which include the words your have to describe yourself.
I invite you to join my private facebook group where women share stories about their body positivity and challenges. All of us face internal demons and we should support and encourage one another to rise above.
Please request to join. You will be asked a couple of questions to verify your identity. This is a positive group and no hateful comments are tolerated.
Molly Blair’s Private Facebook Group
I have a free boudoir planning app available that will give you great tips on getting ready for a successful shoot no matter who you pick to be your photographer.
